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Why is communication important for success? - India
Confused how communication is critical - India
Would like the quiz to be easier - UK
How can I improve my communication skills? - INDIA
Co-worker always flutters her eyes when talking - USA
Others having fun but I'm just sitting around - Australia
Is eye direction different for left-handed people? - USA
Would children do better than Chimpanzees or Dogs? - USA
Term for reading eyes - USA
Why is communication important for success?
Topic: General
Question
April 22, 2013
Why is effective communication important for success in life?
Paras - India
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Answer
Communication that is ineffective means that the other person will not understand what you are trying to say or may be confused by your words.
For example, a supervisor who does not effectively communicate directions can end up in the wrong things being done.
Likewise, if you seek a promotion at work but are ineffective in expressing your goal, the job may go to someone else.
You need clear and effective communication to more forward in life.
Confused how communication is critical
Topic: General
Question
April 18, 2012
GoodGood day i am confused in this question (communication is critical in the presentation and acceptance oc total quality management).
Thapelo - India
22595
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If you have a proposal about how to improve a company through the use of TQM, you need to be able to clearly explain it to your management. Also, if you are implementing TQM in the company, you need to clearly communicate the benefits and actions take to the workers.
People need to understand the subject and the concepts stated. Otherwise they will simply ignore you.
Would like the quiz to be easier
Topic: Communication Among Animals
Question
September 16, 2009
We love your quiz but found it slightly challenging, is there anyway you could possibly make it any easier please? Love Harriet and Rhea (age 14)
- UK
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I'm glad you enjoyed the quiz and am sorry it was challenging to you. But being challenged is the best way to grow and improve. However, will look into making the questions a little easier. In the meantime, enjoy the material, and thanks for your suggestion.
How can I improve my communication skills?
Topic: Basics
Question
January 22, 2007
how i can improve communication skills
how i can become effective speaker
tell me
dharmendra - INDIA
12940
Answer
First part of communication is being able to listen effectively. Not only must you be able to understand what the person is saying, but you also need to read the person's emotions and find out his interests. In this way, when you do say things, you will know what to say that will make the person interested in you.
A problem in communications is that many people start talking before they know if the other person is interested. They are very anxious to tell about themselves. I am sure you have friends that will immediately start talking about themselves, whether or not you are interested.
One good way to become a more effective speaker is to get involved with Toastmasters. To find a club in your area, check:
http://www.toastmasters.org/find/default.asp?Country=India
If you are able to attend a meeting, you will find it very worthwhile.
Co-worker always flutters her eyes when talking
Topic: Reading Eyes
Question
September 17, 2006
I have a co-worker who when talking to her will always flutters her eyes first, then completly close her eyes (this is when she is talking to you, as opoosed to being talked to). What does this mean?
kathie - USA
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Answer
People who do that are often very nervous or anxious when talking to other people. She may be trying too hard to impress others or worried that she isn't saying the right thing.
It could also be a habit or a cultural thing. In some cultures, people look down or away when talking to others.
Others having fun but I'm just sitting around
Topic: General
Question
August 28, 2006
I have no confidence what so ever and I am only able to talk to one of my friends. I tried building up my confidence and I try talking but I get no where and of course that puts me down even more, so much that I'm becoming depressed.
The more I'm with my friends and don't know what to say it makes it sooooooo much worse. I'm known as the person who doesn't talk, my friends are out there having lots of fun and im sitting there watching them because I don't know what to do or say and when my friend tries to include me I always ruin every chance I get.
Any advice you could give me would help so much because at the moment I'm doing everything possible to avoid my friends at recess and lunch which is terrible, they're my friends and I can't even talk to them about everyday things.
- Australia
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The problem isn't so much of lack of confidence as it is in being able to converse effectively with other people. Plus, the more you try, the worst it seems to get.
Take a step back to regroup.
First of all, consider your friends. What do you know about them? What are the things they like? What type of music do they like? What do they like to do for fun? You have to observe other people to know what interests them. Then causally ask a question about something they are interested in. The more you know about their interest, the easier it is to talk about it with them.
Your goal is not to lead the conversation, but to try to get the other person talking about his or her interest. Like if a friend is interested in soccer, you might study up on it and then ask him, "What did you think about the game yesterday?" This is an opener for a conversation.
The more things you are knowledgeable about, the more people you can talk to. Again, your goal is not to show off what you know, but to get the other person talking about his or her interest. You will be surprised to see how well this works.
Also, when you're not worried about saying something clever, you relax more and can then join in on the fun.
I hope these ideas help you to be able to join in.
Is eye direction different for left-handed people?
Topic: Reading Eyes
Question
March 14, 2006
What about someone left handed when it comes to which way the eyes move? Clarifing... if person looks to MY left what does it mean, MY right? Is it different for left handed people?
AB - USA
10444
Answer
A person will usually look to his or her left when trying to remember things. Some do it to the right, but it doesn't seem to be related to whether they are left or right-handed.
Observing eye movement when you talk to various people will make you more aware of what they are thinking. Note that good movie and TV actors will have appropriate eye movement when they are thinking. Even some cartoon characters do it.
Would children do better than Chimpanzees or Dogs?
Topic: Dogs vs Chimps
Question
January 23, 2006
HI I would just like to comment that as a science fair project I have done an experiment titled "Do dogs respond to Human Gestures?"
I am doing it again this year and I came across your website. Also I noticed that I did the experiment almost exactly the way you did, but I had no chimpanzees to work with just to dogs. But instead I tested it by putting the dog through gestured trials and throught non-gestured trials. proving that they respond to human gesture.
I have read another article that had children as a variable to this experiment. Do you think children would do better than Chimpanzees or Dogs?
Miller - USA
9766
Answer
I believe that dogs have an intelligence level of between a 2 and 4-year old human. You could try a simple experiment with some young children to see if they would look in the direction that you pointed. I'm not sure at what age kids start to learn to respond to gestures, but I'm sure it is pretty young.
Term for reading eyes
Topic: Reading Eyes
Question
May 1, 2005
I have heard of this theory before and I am almost sure it had a name. I just cannot recall what it was. This is very interesting to me. Could you please name this theory for me? Thanks you.
Allison
Allison - USA
6838
Answer
It is also called "accessing cues" but I am also sure there is a more technical term for the process. Unfortunately, I don't have the term available.
Keeping open mind toward other people
Topic: Basics
Question
March 20, 2005
THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP BUT THERE IS ANOTHER THING I WOULD LIKE TO ASK PLEASE I TRY TO KEEP AN OPEN MIND IN MY JUDGEMENTS TOWARDS PEOPLE I PREY THEY WOULD DO THE SAME FOR ME.ITS NOT WHATS OUTSIDE WHAT COUNTS ITS INSIDE WHAT TYPE OF TEMPREMENT A PERSON IS (KIND NATURED)IS USUALLY BEST BUT I HAVE'NT FOUND ANY ONE LIKE ME,UNTIL TODAY SOME ONE SAID TO ME GIVE ME A POUND I DIDNT WANT TO GIVE IT AWAY I EARNT IT I WASNT BEING GREEDY ,GOD PROVIDED HIM WITH ARMS AND LEGS AS HE DID ME . I DONT HAVE ALOT OF MONEY WHAT I EARN I WORK HARD FOR DOING CHORES AND THEN HIS FRIEND NEXT TO HIM SAID LEAVE HIM ALONE THE BOY STOPPED PESTERING ME AND I REALISED THAT EVEN THOUGH HE LOOKED LIKE ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO WOULD USUALLY ROB ME HE WAS'NT
HE WAS ACTUALLY A GOOD PERSON INSIDE
IS THIS WAY OF THINKING CORRECT OR FALSE ?
MATTHEW - USA
6400
Answer
It is good to give everyone the benefit of the doubt and not judge others too fast. I always try to think of other people as good. It is often surprizing to find a person who you judge really has a lot of offer and is better than you think. Still, you must be aware there are some who do not have good intentions. But it is better to think good of people than bad.
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