by Ron Kurtus
Readers have sent in a total of 175 comments and questions on Character issues. They are listed according to date.
You can read them to further your understanding of the subject.
|Character lessons for prison inmates||Your Character is Important||USA|
|Best way to instill good character||General||Malaysia|
|Gaining knowledge in Buddhism||General||USA|
|Can one build a new character?||Personal Traits||Ghana|
|Made some clear points on subject||Responsible||USA|
|Having an incantation of repayment||Trustworthy||USA|
|So-called friend scammed her||Stealing||USA|
|Permission to use material||Determination||Nigeria|
|Request for book foreword||Responsible||Nigeria|
|Factors that affect your character||Definition||USA|
|What is good character?||General||India|
|Why do people act in extremes?||Extremes in Good Character||South Africa|
|Success in business based on character||General||Nigeria|
|When was article originally written?||Resources||USA|
|How to deal with negative traits||Personal Traits||USA|
Character lessons for prison inmates
January 19, 2020
I am a prison Chaplain and have been searching for a good independent study/lesson/program on character. What I found here is perfect, what must I do to get permission to use it to teach from, and is there a posttest used in conjunction with a pretest to measure their achievement and the effectiveness of the program?
Mark - USA (29325)
You have permission to use the Character material, provided you cite the Character web page.
Unfortunately, I don't have a full pre-test and post-test, except for the mini-quizzes for each lesson.
I'm in the process of completing a book on Character. I'll let you know when it is ready.
By the way, many years ago I was giving motivational talks at the Pritchess Detention Center outside of Los Angeles. It was a good feeling to help the inmates get back on their feet.
Best wishes for success in your work.
Best way to instill good character
April 14, 2018
Hi Mr Ron,Stumbled on this website while searching for good character traits.My question is there are many good characters available.What's the best way to instill a particular character?And what's the best way to do it so that it is ingrained into one's personality.Is self discipline considered a good character?Thanks Mr Ron Kurtus.Looking forward to your reply.
Ivan - Malaysia (28518)
Sorry for the delay in answering you.
Character can be divided into three classes. Personal character is related to your attitudes toward doing tasks, like how hard you work and doing a good job. Social character relates to your attitudes toward other people and their property. Honesty and kindness are good social traits. Group-based traits relate to following the rules of your group or society.
Self-discipline is a positive personal character trait. It allows you to finish what you start and to avoid negative activities.
Realizing the benefits you can get from having good character helps to ingrain it in your attitudes. Acknowledging a good deed or good job helps to reinforce that trait.
I hope that helps. Best wishes for success in having good character.
Gaining knowledge in Buddhism
September 3, 2017
I am interested in gaining knowledge in Buddhism
With good character knowledge
Dermot - USA (28211)
I plan to add material on how Buddhism encourages good character. But also, I will be adding material explaining Buddhism in our Religions section. See Noble Eightfold Path in Buddhism for some information.
Can one build a new character?
May 15, 2017
Been fully grown, can one still build a new character?
Do we have have an extent that character we get to then we describes it as a fully matured character?
JOHN - Ghana (28048)
You can always improve your character. You may have learned some character traits that now are not beneficial to you and your relationship with others. In such a case, you can seek to change and improve your character.
Look to people who are honest, courageous, conscientious, and helpful as examples to emulate.
Best wishes on improving your character.
Made some clear points on subject
February 1, 2017
You made some clear points there. I looked on the internet for the subject and found most guys will consent with your site.
- USA (27849)
I'm glad the material was useful to you.
Having an incantation of repayment
September 14, 2016
What does having an incantation of repayment have to do with being trustworthy?
Bella - USA (27285)
I'm sorry, but I don't know what you mean by "an incantation of repayment." There are several possible meanings to the phrase.
So-called friend scammed her
August 27, 2016
I sent money to a friend in Africa to help him get a visa to come to the united states. In a period of six months I sent him several thousands of dollars. I also went to Africa and spent 3 weeks with him. As soon as I got back to the US he took all the money for the visa and got married on it with his scammer girlfriend. He paid for the wedding and bought wedding rings with my money. Then, kept calling me telling me he was sorry and didn't know why he did it. Telling me he married her on a condition, etc. Will this person ever pay for stealing my money. Even though he said he was sorry and asked me to forgive him. Is their marriage cursed and will it ever last between them because of this action on their part to swindle and defraud me.
Carolyn - USA (27241)
You were certainly trying to be kind to help out your friend. However, his character was not very good, such that he took advantage of your kindness.
The fact that he is continuing to contact you and asking for forgiveness may be an effort to get on your good side and perhaps ask for more help.
I believe that you can kiss your money good-bye and chalk this up to a lesson learned.
He may have been influenced by his girlfriend, or they may have planned it together. At the very least, they deserve each other. Perhaps their marriage is cursed.
Unfortunately, you always have to be suspicious of the intentions of some people.
Best wishes for a good life with good friends.
Permission to use material
June 5, 2016
Thanks for this great write up on determination. Indeed it is an eyes opener to success and greatness.
Would be kind enough to permit me to do some extract from this write up for distribution.
Endeavour to furnish me with the approval soon.
Once again thank you.
Emmanuel - Nigeria (27056)
I am glad you found the information useful. You can use the material for distribution, provided you cite or refer to the web page you are using.
Best wishes for success in your endeavors.
Request for book foreword
June 3, 2016
Good day my name is Abugu Peter-Raymond. I am a Nigerian writer. I have an inspirational book that bothers on Responsibility and discipline as part of the key to fulfilling one's dreams of success.
I therefore wish to request for the privilege of having you write the foreword to this book. I will be glad if you grant me this privilege. I look forward to hearing from you.
Abugu - Nigeria (27051)
Congratulations on writing your book. I would be glad to write a foreword to your book.
Please give me more details about your book and its subject, as well as the desired focus that you would like for the foreword.
Factors that affect your character
April 21, 2016
What are the factors that affect your character positive and that affect your character negative?
Kgosietsile - USA (26955)
Character consist of learned behavior traits. You learn that it is beneficial to you to be honest, helpful, and conscientious.
But some people are taught to be dishonest, lazy, and such. They could be taught that from parents or friends. Having a reputation of negative character can result in losses. Often people with poor character traits learn to improve their character.
What is good character?
April 17, 2016
what is good character? Explain why it is needed for students or children.
chinglembi - India (26940)
Good character is behaving in an acceptable manner in society. Basic rules of character are to do your best, don't harm others, and be honest.
It is important for students and children to have good character so that they will mature into being outstanding citizens.
See Character of Children is Important for more information.
Why do people act in extremes?
March 21, 2016
Why do people act in the extremes mentioned in your article? In particular being determined. What could be the root of that?
Thank you so much.
Mari - South Africa (26878)
Although a person can be taught to be determined in seeking to a achieve a goal, quite often much of it is a personality trait, especially if the person is extremely determined.
You can see this in children who are very stubborn and want their own way or want to get something.
Being determined to achieve a goal is an admirable trait unless it is extreme. Sometimes a person may want something so bad that he or she becomes ruthless in trying to get it or simply doesn't know when to quit.
It is an interesting characteristic. You can learn from observing people to try to see the root of their actions.
Success in business based on character
August 10, 2015
the formation and success in business is not solely on the availability of money but on character discuss
John - Nigeria (26263)
Success in a business is usually based on the relationship and trust that the customers have in those running the business. Character traits such as integrity and honesty are very important in keeping customers.
When starting a new business, investors need to know the entrepreneur has good character traits, such that he or she will follow through in implementing the business idea.
When was article originally written?
March 24, 2015
I see that you revised this article in January 2014, however can you provide me with the original date so that I can correctly cite my reference.
Robyn - USA (25854)
The "Character Resources" page was originally done on 6 December 2002 and last revised on 24 April 2012.
However, I think you are referring to another article. "Ambition" was originally written in 29 May 2007, and "Social Character Traits" was originally written on 8 February 2007.
I hope that helps.
How to deal with negative traits
December 26, 2014
Your descriptions are true, but more emphasis should be placed on how to deal with the traits install of just describing them.
Joseph - USA (25664)
If you realize that you have some negative character traits, you certainly will want to improve or correct them. But when dealing with other people, it can be difficult.
You can form opinions about others (see Judging the Character of Others), but dealing with them is another thing. For example, if a person at work is careless, how can you deal with the situation?
It is worth some thought. I'll try to add some ideas on that subject.
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