Explanation of how people want to feel special or important and that you can be a source of value to them. Also refer to importance, valuable, character, intelligence, social standing, confident, unsure, taste, class, Ron Kurtus, School for Champions. Copyright © Restrictions
People Want to be Special
by Ron Kurtus (26 January 2002)
Most people want to be someone special or important. When they are made to feel important, they get a glow about them. To be able to make someone feel special is valuable to the person and will in return make you a valuable person to him or her.
Questions you may have include:
- What can make a person feel special?
- How does a person respond if you make him feel important?
- Why should you make the effort to praise people?
This lesson will answer those questions. There is a mini-quiz near the end of the lesson.
Special situations
There are numerous situations when a person feels special or important.
When a person wins a competition, he or she feels special.
Getting an award at work or from an organization makes the recipient feel important.
Receiving a "Thank You" note makes a person feel appreciated and special.
Getting praise from the boss can make a worker feel special.
Being recognized for an achievement--even if it is just acknowledgement from your peers--makes a person feel important.
Getting a promotion at work results in a special feeling.
Being put in charge of a project at work make a person feel important.
Think of the time when you have felt special or important.
Being valuable
Obviously, it is nice to be on the receiving side, such that you feel important or special. But being the on the giving side has its benefits too.
A person who shows appreciation, who gives praise, or who makes another person feel special is providing a valuable service and can be considered a valuable person to the recipient. Being thought of as valuable is a reward in itself.
Seeking ways to make another person feel important or special takes an effort, but it can be well worthwhile. It is something you should do in your effort to be a valuable person.
Summary
Since people want to be someone special or important, it is a good idea for you to help them get that feeling. In return, they will consider you a valuable friend, boss, or associate.
Character counts
Resources
The following are resources on this subject.
Websites
Improving Your Leadership Skills
Books
Top-rated books on Self-Esteem
Mini-quiz to check your understanding
1. If a child comes in second place in a contest, what should you say?
2. Why should you allow a subordinate at work make a decision?
3. How do people respond to those who make them feel special?
If you got all three correct, you are on your way to becoming a Valuable Champion. If you had problems, you had better look over the material again.
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